There is magic to a life transformation. The expression invokes an energy infused with positivity and potential. Transformation occurs naturally; consider a caterpillar, munching on leaves. Its future contains the ability to soar, to move between flowers no longer tied to the leaf but to the nectar. Yet that sweet reward is only possible through its transformation to butterfly or moth, an organic occurrence that is enchanting and fantastical to observe. Yet there is a structure and sequence that must unfold for metamorphosis to be achieved. We are intimately linked to the natural world; our reproductive cycle is an organic process, yet the biological link goes deeper into our spirit and our soul. This link assures us that within our own lives, a transformation can be realized: an inner transformation felt deep within. Though this book is biased toward a female perspective, the journey cannot be defined simply by gender. It is our humanness which unites us on this journey as we seek to realize our dreams and bring forth our authenticity. We seek meaning, and that transcends the narrow definition of gender and encompasses all that it means to be human.

This book traces the structure and sequence of personal transformation. As you read through it, you will gain awareness, strength, and knowledge of the steps and processes involved in a transformational journey. If you are just starting out, thinking about transforming your life, this book will guide you, illuminating the way forward. If you are part way through your transformation, you will recognize the moments you’ve already experienced, understanding them for what they are, and, with that clarity, will be able to locate where you are in the cycle and rejoice at your growth. And if you’ve already transformed your life in some way, you will ready yourself for your next cycle through the adventure of transformation. You will have already experienced the emergence of an extraordinary power within yourself, an energy which drives you forward and inflames your desire to continue to deepen your connection to your soul and your truth.

We all crave happiness and fulfilment. But too often, we chase superficial desires: a high-paying job, a new car, the latest trend in fashion—the list goes on and on. We often compare ourselves with others: their belongings and lifestyle (and social media has made this all the easier to do), when we instead need to turn inward to experience real personal growth: to enrich our inner world and transform our souls.

This first journey of transformation wasn’t easy. There were tears and fears. My little confidence often evaded me entirely, as my outer and inner worlds fought with one another. I was plagued by insecurities, self-doubt, and an enormous case of imposter syndrome. That first year was a nightmare. What got me through was grit and stubbornness; I couldn’t fail again.

The price we pay for not living our truth is to exist in a half-life. The danger of a half-life existence is often that we do not consciously recognize it. Perhaps it’s easy or provides us with financial security. Often, it’s what we feel we are “supposed to do” or what is expected of us. There are many reasons. But our unconscious knows this is wrong and will signal as much to us. The cycle we’ve just completed was hard, even scary at times, filled with monsters and demons brought forth by our fears. Yet here we are. We made a choice—a heroic choice—to pay whatever price was called for, to step away from a half-life of mere existence and create a whole life, where we shine in our truth.